Can you believe it’s been six years already? I think back on all the times I wrote about time after she passed, especially that first year or so. The fact is that time continued its ever present trek forward no matter how much we’d rather have had it go backward for either more time with our little girl or for us to somehow change the outcome. Yet, we all know that’s not possible and time has brought us to where we are today.
I’ve met a new friend today through my Christian fiction writers group called ACFW (American Christian Fiction Writers). She left me a comment on my author website (https://kristenatunstall.com) introducing herself to me while also sharing how she too has lost a child and she felt compelled, just as I have been, to write about the journey she’s been through.
As I sat writing her an email, I was telling her about Mari’s birthday. But here’s the question: Do I say Mari’s birthday WAS December 29 or do I say Mari’s birthday IS December 29? I mean, no matter what, Mari was born on December 29. No matter what she would have turned a new age each year on that date. She would be fourteen right now if she were still alive. So do I say was or is when it comes to talking about her birthday? I honestly don’t know. I went with is this time.