When life gets hard, what should you do?  Everyone is different and everyone handles their problems in different ways.  For the most part, our lives involve different paths and the choices we make to get there.  Some choices come by easily and others are difficult to almost impossible to have to make.  And then there are the things that happen in our lives that can be called the unchoices.

So what exactly is an unchoice you might be asking?  Well, this is when something either happens to you or in your life you had no control over and would have never made the choice for it to happen to you or in your life to begin with.  There really are not too many unchoices in one’s life but there are a few.

What would an example be of an unchoice?  Well, the hardest one of all is the death of your child.  There are a few insane people out there that kill their own children but most of us would never think of doing something like this in a million years.  Yet for those few unfortunate souls, the unchoice happens and their child dies, is taken from them.

When people say, “My life has been so hard,” you wonder what has happened.  Curiosity kills the cat and you want to know.  The word “hard” isn’t even the tip of the iceberg for how truly difficult the loss of a child is on a parent as no words can be said as to actually describe how hard it really is.  Your life is never ever the same and you can never go back to the person you once were.  But through it all you somehow learn to live a new in the life you have now been given.  The unchoices that have been made to get you to where you are now.