The struggles of life, there always seem to be a never ending supply of them. Some of them seem simple and easy to overcome. Some seem out of the ordinary but we learn to deal with them anyway. Then some are simply unbearable and hard to imagine what the light at the end of the tunnel even looks like.
That last one is the one that can describe, or at least try to, as to what it’s like for a parent to have lost a child. When it happens, the second it happens, there is no light. It feels like it is pitch black and you muddle your way through the darkness just trying to survive.
There are some that don’t and succumb to the darkness by taking their life as they feel, “What do I have left to live for.”
What these people have failed to realize is what all the other parents have is if you can’t live for yourself you learn to live for the child you lost. You learn to live a new. You learn to become a new person so the light of your child never really blows out as he or she can now live on in you.
No it is not easy and even those who may “SEEM” strong have lapses back to the tougher times of it all. However, they continue to live and continue to create the new person they are meant to be: The light for the child. Their child becomes the light at the end of their tunnel.
When the parent does this for their child that’s gone, it’s like his or her spirit is still with us helping all to remember what type of child he or she was when he or she was alive.
In the end, the parent looks to be strong but all that really has happened is that the parent has no choice but to become this new person or they kill themselves.
Grief is confused for strength. When your child is taken from you, you have no choice but to continue living. A grieving parent struggles day to day to continue to live without their beloved angel but somehow they do it.